Tuesday, April 28, 2009

What's for dinner, honey?

Check out this police eating survey (if you haven't already!) provided by LAPD Wife. I think it's a great idea to see how we can better feed our boys in blue.

I love to cook (it's a great stress release for me, as long as the kiddies aren't screaming or clinging to my legs while I'm stirring a scalding hot pan) but sometimes it's not very motivating when my man has a night shift or isn't ready to come home when dinner's ready so I end up eating alone with a toddler and infant (the conversation isn't very stimulating and my food's always cold by the time I can eat it all).

We also live in the same small town that my husband is a patrol officer in, so technically he doesn't even need to pack a lunch or dinner, he can just come home. Sometimes he does, but usually he doesn't eat at all (depending on the shift) or grabs a quick bite with the other officers at a local fast food joint. It'll be interesting to see the similarities and differences throughout the blue line.

Saturday, April 25, 2009

A question for the other LEO families out there

So, here's a question to other police families. Are you close to other LEO families in your or neighboring departments?
Was it hard to do that?
Do you have activities together or do you just get together unofficially?
If you have a tight knit department, what would your suggestions be for other departments?
Also, does your city or county have any benefits for police families (ie business give a small discount if cop families show a card or something)?
What websites do you suggest for LEO wives to gain more support?
Are there any organizations or fraternities?

Okay, that's all.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

MIA Husbands

I figured it was about time I post something here since I've been a contributor to our small-town police wife blog for a few months now. I blame part of it on the fact that I could never think up a clever pseudonym for my husband all LEO-inspired, so I just refer to him as my man. I know, lame, but I'll figure something amazing out at a later date. On to the real reason for the post!

Due to the financial crunch the whole U.S. of A is experiencing, my man and other officers have had to find other monetary means besides just the job to help with finances. Shocking, I know, since police officers get paid SO much for putting their lives on the line every time they go to work...no, wait. I was thinking of a perfect world in which people get paid what they deserve. Let's continue.

I'm grateful that he's willing to continue to sacrifice so that I can remain home with our babies, but it really begins to catch up with me not having a husband for days on end. In fact, I get so used to doing things on my own, it's hard to include him sometimes when he's actually home. It's totally contradictory, and maybe you can relate.

For instance, I was frazzled having to clean up yet another mess from my toddler son, and my man offered to help clean it up while I took a break. Sweet, huh?! Well, I was so caught up in mommy/maid/caretaker mode that I turned on him and exclaimed that he didn't know where anything was and "it may be so easy for some to just leave a mess but not for me."

This then led to my declaration that I don't expect anything from him because I've had to learn to do it all myself, he has enough to worry about with his job, blah, blah, blah... You get the picture.

Not until I had calmed down, disaster clean-up occurred, and I was able to eat some food (I don't think I had taken the time to feed myself that day, and it really showed), I realized how hurt my man was by not being given any expectations in the household. I thought I was helping him when I told him I didn't expect him to do anything around the house since I'm ALWAYS here, but he NEEDED to help because he could see how stressed I get.

I guess part of it is his natural personality to want to help (which makes him an excellent cop) and he likes to be successful in calming down a stressful situation. I need to allow my husband to no longer be given the title of MIA and let him be the husband that he is--helpful and an amazing father. Now if only I could solve the mess-making skills of my toddler?!