Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Bachelorette from an LEO perspective

OK. I feel like I need to add a disclaimer before continuing.

I have never watched the Bachelorette before this season and only started watching it after not being able to get my Castle fix until September 20th, when Season 2 begins.

With that said, I've had fun looking at all the eye candy the bachelors have provided (and yes, I've admitted that to FH and he knows that no one else could satisfy me the way he does), seeing all the fun dates that I'd never go on but still appreciate. What does any of that have to do with the LEO world?

Profiling, my friends. Profiling.

I realize that this reality series is still a television show and the producers are showing their audience what they want to show them, so we (the viewers) get a very controlled perspective of the characters behind the show.

I've taken all of that with a grain of salt, realizing that some of the voiceover may be spliced and added where convenient. I've also realized that there is some quick thinking deflection being done by one bachelor that's not on the show for love.

Bachelor #1:

Smooth talking country musician (aka Master Manipulator) that already has a girlfriend and is only on the show to promote his musical career.

Bachelor #2:

The "perfect" package as a commercial pilot and ultimate gentleman (aka Goldenheart) yet got kicked off last week. He showed up to call Master Manipulator's bluff.

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During their interviews, Goldenheart looked brokenhearted yet extremely worried about Jillian because of previous conversations he had had with Master Manipulator. As for the country singer, you could see the sly smirks and egotistical knowhow in wooing Jillian around his little finger.

And what of the Bachelorette?

Cute as a button and very trusting, Jillian (aka Miss Intuition) is falling head over heels for Master Manipulator yet keeps questioning if he's sincere. If you've read Gavin DeBecker's Protecting the Gift you'll know what I'm talking about when I say that Miss Intuition is not listening to her gut instincts about Master Manipulator OR Goldenheart.

I was noticing a lot of body language signs that I thought FH would be interested in, so I shared with him my novice LEO profiling.

The result?

I have never seen FH light up about let alone watch a chick show, but he got so excited pointing out the psychological body language in Master Manipulator while showing off his interrogation training in spotting lie after lie. Well, it impressed me!

FH then explained why Miss Intuition fell for it and how Master Manipulator's family was part of the web of lies. As for Goldenheart? I don't think we've seen the last of him.

I have never had SO much fun watching a program before, and it's all because of the perspectives LEOs have when profiling individuals. Best date night ever!!!

Is this only awesome to me or can you relate? I'd love to hear if you've had similar experiences while watching "reality" tv. ;)

Saturday, June 27, 2009

Seeing Pink in Maricopa County

A friend of ours sent us this e-mail because they know how much FH has looked up to "Sheriff Joe" since he was young. FH was born in the same county that Sheriff Joe's pink prison camp resides, so it's always had a tender place in his heart for effective jailing.

Here's the article, and as much as the English teacher in me wanted to correct the sentence structure, I left it as they sent it, so don't blame me for a few awkward sentences and incorrect grammar! ;)

You all remember Sheriff Joe Arpaio of Arizona , who painted the jail cells pink and made the inmates wear pink prison garb. Well.......... SHERIFF JOE IS AT IT AGAIN!Oh, there's MUCH more to know about Sheriff Joe!

Maricopa County was spending approx. $18 million dollars a year on stray animals, like cats and dogs. Sheriff Joe offered to take the department over, and the County Supervisors said okay. The animal shelters are now all staffed and operated by prisoners. They feed and care for the strays. Every animal in his care is taken out and walked twice daily. He now has prisoners who are experts in animal nutrition and behavior. They give great classes for anyone who'd like to adopt an animal. He has literally taken stray dogs off the street, given them to the care of prisoners, and had them place in dog shows.

The best part? His budget for the entire department is now under $3 million. Teresa and I adopted a Weimaraner from a Maricopa County shelter two years ago. He was neutered, and current on all shots, in great health, and even had a microchip inserted the day we got him. Cost us $78.The prisoners get the benefit of about $0.28 an hour for working, but most would work for free, just to be out of their cells for the day.

Most of his budget is for utilities, building maintenance, etc. He pays the prisoners out of the fees collected for adopted animals. I have long wondered when the rest of the country would take a look at the way he runs the jail system, and copy some of his ideas.

He has a huge farm, donated to the county years ago, where inmates can work, and they grow most of their own fresh vegetables and food, doing all the work and harvesting by hand.

He has a pretty good sized hog farm, which provides meat, and fertilizer. It fertilizes the Christmas tree nursery, where prisoners work, and you can buy a living Christmas tree for $6 - $8 for the Holidays, and plant it later. We have six trees in our yard from the Prison.

Yup, he was reelected last year with 83% of the vote. Now he's in trouble with the ACLU again. He painted all his buses and vehicles with a mural, that has a special hotline phone number painted on it, where you can call and report suspected illegal aliens.

Immigrations and Customs Enforcement wasn't doing enough in his eyes, so he had 40 deputies trained specifically for enforcing immigration laws, started up his hotline, and bought 4 new buses just for hauling folks back to the border. He's kind of a 'Git-R Dun' kind of Sheriff.


Sheriff Joe Arpaio (In Arizona ) who created the ' Tent City Jail': He has jail meals down to 40 cents a serving and charges the inmates for them. He stopped smoking and porno magazines in the jails. Took away their weights Cut off all but 'G' movies.

He started chain gangs so the inmates could do free work on county and city projects. Then He Started Chain Gangs For Women So He Wouldn't Get Sued For Discrimination.

He took away cable TV Until he found out there was A Federal Court Order that Required Cable TV For Jails So He Hooked Up The Cable TV Again Only Let In The Disney Channel And The Weather Channel.

When asked why the weather channel He Replied, So They Will Know How Hot It's Gonna Be While They Are Working ON My Chain Gangs.

He Cut Off Coffee Since It Has Zero Nutritional Value. When the inmates complained, he told them, 'This Isn't The Ritz/Carlton......If You Don't Like It, Don't Come Back.'

More On The Arizona Sheriff: With Temperatures Being Even Hotter Than Usual In Phoenix (116 Degrees Just Set A New Record), the Associated Press Reports: About 2,000 Inmates Living In A Barbed-Wire-Surrounded Tent Encampment At The Maricopa County Jail Have Been Given Permission To Strip Down To Their Government-Issued Pink Boxer Shorts.

On Wednesday, hundreds of men wearing boxers were either curled up on their bunk beds or chatted in the tents, which reached 138 Degrees Inside The Week Before.

Many Were Also Swathed In Wet, Pink Towels As Sweat Collected On Their Chests And Dripped Down To Their PINK SOCKS.'It Feels Like We Are In A Furnace,' Said James Zanzot, An Inmate Who Has Lived In The TENTS for 1 year. 'It's Inhumane.'

Joe Arpaio, the tough-guy sheriff who created the tent city and long ago started making his prisoners wear pink, and eat bologna sandwiches, is not one bit sympathetic. He said Wednesday that he told all of the inmates: 'It's 120 Degrees In Iraq And Our Soldiers Are Living In Tents Too, And They Have To Wear Full Battle Gear, But They Didn't Commit Any Crimes,So Shut Your Mouths!'

Way To Go, Sheriff! Maybe if all prisons were like this one there would be a lot less crime and/or repeat offenders. Criminals should be punished for their crimes - not live in luxury until it's time for their parole, only to go out and commit another crime so they can get back in to live on taxpayers money and enjoy things taxpayers can't afford to have for themselves.

Friday, June 26, 2009

In tribute to Michael

OK, Kimber is the one that should get full credit for finding this nugget on YouTube after posting it on Facebook today as a tribute to the now late Michael Jackson. I couldn't help but share it with the LEO community, so here you go:

Just remember that Kimber found it, stating, "This is what really happens in prison" and I stole it to place here.

Enjoy. ;)

Wednesday, June 24, 2009

Some jacked-up priorities

As I was checking my e-mail today, I came across this article "Even Cops Losing their Jobs in Recession."

I've already talked with FH about how messed up it is to tighten the belts of LEOs because as times get tough, so do the criminals, and more of them seem to spring up with the figurative belt-tightening being done in every business. Thus, instead of getting RID of LEOs, we need to hire MORE to keep stability in an unstable world.

What do you think? Do you have (or have you seen) any solutions that resort in police officers NOT getting the shaft?

Who knows? Maybe with these tough times and hard-to-keep jobs, it'll force departments to sift through their worthless officers and keep the ones that need to be there. Just a thought!

Monday, June 22, 2009


Big Daddy is on vacation.
So, apparently he had waaaaaay too many vacation hours and was ordered to stay out of the office for the next 3 weeks.

I am thrilled. He is thrilled.

But, not sure what to do with ourselves. I've sent him fishing, he's gardened, we fixed some house things that needed fixing.

What DO your cop husbands do on vacation? He's never had one before where he didn't get called out within the 1st 24 hours so we're a bit at a loss.

(But I'm happy to have him around!)

Wednesday, June 17, 2009

LEO: Kid's Perspective

Thank you SO much Stephanie for making this post about little kid encounters with the police.

While reading True Blue, one of the stories that both FH and I loved was titled, "Little Boy, G.I. Joe" by Officer Scott Harmon. Officer Harmon was out patrolling, spotted a little boy sitting on a curb crying, and after finding out that the boy's G.I. Joe fell down the drain, the scenario that followed involved over 4 squad cars, dispatch calling city workers for a crowbar, and the end result:

"I got him!" I shouted with joyous triumph. And at that moment I saw myself as someone I hope I'll always be. I looked at the boy and his face was almost angelic and his smile simply brightened my existence and warmed my heart. I stood up, dusted myself off, waked over to the boy and presented him with G.I. Joe, no worse for his experience in the drain.

"Here you go, sir," I said.

"Thank you so very much!" the boy said with utter joy and gratitude. I realized at that moment what this job is all about.

Sometimes it's just nice to know that kids see officers as what they truly are: protecting and serving so that we can all have a better tomorrow.

Sunday, June 14, 2009

A successful "Wife" get together

So, this week we finally got a small group of local leo wives together.
It was really quite nice. We all joked about the same things, we listened slack jawed as Lynne told us all about going on a ride along with her husband (as nobody else's husband will take a wife on a ridealong) and we talked about things with people who understood.

It was great.

We're going to start meeting on a monthly basis and I for one am thrilled.

We're also going to add a few authors here (I think).

I don't know about Natalie, but it made me feel great to visit with the other wives.

That's all, just wanted to share.

Thursday, June 11, 2009

Ideas from a Bookworm

I've been taking full advantage of good reads mentioned by other cop wives like this one, whether on their blogs or from hearsay, so I thought it would be fun to discuss an idea here.

I don't think that I'm ambitious enough to try to formulate a book club via blogging, but I'm curious what sort of recent (and would recommend) reads you've encountered that had to do with the police world, especially the LEO family. I've read I Love a Cop, which seems to be the most recommended book out there for cop wives, but I have to be honest, I didn't really get a lot from it (sheepish look) and isn't my favorite read (guilty conscience).

Our small town library only had one book of interest that related to cops, titled True Blue: Police Stories by Those Who lived Them by Sgt. Randy Sutton.

However, we also have interlibrary loan so I have a few I'm waiting for based off of what was widgeted (did I just make that word up? Oh, well) by LAPD Wife and Mrs. Fuzz. After just a few days of True Blue, I'm loving it!

In fact, True Blue's helped my communication with Fauxhawk since I started reading. A lot of stresses at work lately have made him less inclined to open up with me about a lot of things, so our hubby/wife talks were pretty much non-existent, leading to an extremely unhappy housewife and utterly confused husband.

That's actually one of the main reasons why I decided to look into more books on the cop world. I wanted to grasp what could be going on mentally so I could adapt my wife protocol to be a little better for FH.
The result? Sgt. Sutton has a great compilation of police stories from hilarious to horrific, and I couldn't help but sharing some of them with FH. I thought I'd just read the book to myself, but as I was getting into it, I realized I had to share at least a few with him. We started with the funniest ones, like the alien invasion that was solved with a radar gun. FH could indirectly relate to that one when a deputy he works with had to respond multiple times to a female believing ghosts were in her walls. It was awesome.

After getting some good laughs and snuggling closer while reading aloud, we started to read some more heartfelt ones, and that's where FH really opened up. After reading about an officer that explained why he stops and cites individuals for not wearing a seatbelt (the boy he cited was later killed in a car crash for not wearing his seatbelt, making the officer question if he didn't do his job well enough to not get the message through), FH shared with me the only time in two years he's ever been thanked for doing his job.

It was such an amazing connection that I had with him when he shared that, and it made me realize that living as the spouse in an LEO world doesn't necessarily need to be as hard as I've been making it anymore. I just need to know what channels to communicate with, and this time, it started with reading a book.

Any other recommendations?

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Who would Jesus shun?

So, here is an interesting situation.

Where we live, just about everyone is the same religion. Makes for interesting dynamics at church. Our particular congregation has approximately 12 people who are employed in some way for state, county or city law enforcement. Plus their families. That is a well protected church service, I can tell you that!

** Note, I am keeping this story vague because Big Daddy has been a bit upset in the past when I've posted things about his job. Lots of stressful stuff there right now, so I don't want to get him any crankier, although this sentence alone could be enough for him to censor me. It's a sore spot, I will admit. Back to the story...***

Anyhow, some time ago, Big Daddy had a case involving a family (multiple members of the family in this case) in our congregation who were eventually cited/arrested. (Not the first family and I'm sure not the last.) I will admit, it shocked me how kind BD was to them throughout it, showing a lot more mercy than I would have (one more reason why I am not the leo in this family. that and the fact that I have never shot a gun). Anyhow, before said arrest, they were always very visual in the church, and now... gone.

The other day another person told me that they are offended over it and won't come anymore. Honestly, that is too bad. Truly. (Although, I will submit; if you don't want to be offended over getting arrested, maybe don't break the law. Just a thought, and maybe that's crazy talk, but I thought I'd throw that bone out there.)

But, this is where I get a tad ruffled.

A year back, we stopped going to this congregation for a while and went to another one because we felt ostracized over BD's job and how it affected our relationships with fellow church goers (you know, BD investigating/arresting them on occasion) AND more importantly, there were some safety issues with our kids and people at church and we felt strongly that our church leaders were minimizing and outright ignoring our concerns. So, we went elsewhere for a time to get some focus. Eventually we switched back (which I have not loved), but things are strained still.

While we were gone, it was all but a "good riddance" vibe to us. That's fine, we ruffled feathers, I get that. But for these people who are now offended, who broke the law, the same church leaders are telling people to treat with kid gloves, give them extra love.

Why is it that law abiding citizens who have genuine concerns are treated like lepers and those who apparently find the laws optional are treated like fine china?

I don't get it.