So, Big Daddy and I are hippies. We are total cloth diapering, breastfeeding (mostly me on that count), babywearing, cosleeping hippies.
I have noticed that few police families seem to really lean towards he attachment parenting style and it kind of surprises me.
I think what initially drew me to this style of parenting was when we had our second baby and I was thinking about grocery shopping and going to church without BD (because he was always on duty back them... at least it felt that way) and I needed to be able to do it on my own and be self sufficient. I invested in a better baby sling at that time and from there we just evolved into the die hard ap hippies we are now. (As I type this BD is snoring in bed with our 19 month old snuggled into him... our 19 month old who has never spent more than a few hours sleeping anywhere but in our bed since he was born.)
I think what draws BD and myself to the attachment parenting style is his job. Truly. He sees so many kids who are neglected, abused, mishandled and I think he wants to do it different with ours. We both know what a scary world this can be, so I think we want our family to be as tightknit as possible. We don't want our kids to be undisciplined and we are pretty attentive to their behavior (we are not afraid to use Love and Logic on them, lol!). But I see BD when he comes home all exhausted and cranky and it seems like the worse his day is, the more he just comes home, withdraws into our family bubble and just sits with us all together on the couch or the bed snuggling.
BD is a really tough guy, but I notice his soft spot is really his kiddos. Some nights when they're all asleep or cuddled up to him he will just look at me and say, "how anyone can ever hurt a child is beyond my understanding," and I can hear it choke him up a little bit. I love that about him and hate that about his job. I hate that he has to see such a rotten side of the world, but at the same time I am grateful that he uses it to appreciate his little wonkins more.
I'm curious to all of your parenting styles. Do you have a style? Has the JOB changed it at all?
My Life Right Now
1 year ago