Whenever I would watch police shows like COPS or Speeders with FH, the officers that stuck out like a sore thumb were usually the females as their protocol seemed more wishy-washy and foofy.
The belief that only males make fully capable officers was further instilled when I saw the hires right after FH as we gained a police dog (male), a male officer and a female officer. She proved to be unfit and was let go over a month ago quietly after repeated red flags, internal frustrations within the department, etc...
During the majority of this crap I was reading the mind-boggling and quite humorous antics of Mrs. Fuzz's "Calamity Jane," which proved yet again my theory of males in the work force. I read multiple comments about how some fellow LEO wives were so frustrated about the stories because some of the best cops they knew were females, but I just let those skim over my head since I had not seen anything like that myself, so therefore it must not exist.
Here's where I become a hypocrite. I live in a very traditional farming community that still has very traditional values. I grew up learning that women were meant to keep house while men were the providers, hence, anytime there's cooking to be done, tables to be set, etc... the female should do it.
Well, if there's a house full of females, I guess that works, especially according to my father. He has four living sisters, and is one of the babies of the family, so he was (and still is) doted on by his mother and sisters. Why would he want it changed?
I was labeled a feminist by my father in my early teens because I didn't dote and clean as a female properly should. I was "forward thinking" that males and females should have equal opportunities not only in the work place but in the home. I asked why the boys couldn't help out around the house, and was told to stop being a feminist.Even now, when we go to visit, the boys are never in the kitchen unless it's to ask when dinner is going to be done or swipe some food. I ask them to help out (they're now all adults) and they go back to their games, napping, or shooting the breeze with Dad. I'm still considered a feminist.
Now, those that know me well know how stuffy I truly am in such a liberal society. I'm still very traditional, but I'm not a free maid service. I love to cook, but I'm not a short-order cook. I love having a clean house, but I don't like cleaning up after others, ESPECIALLY when it's not my house and they're fully capable.
In short, I agree that there are masculine roles and feminine roles in society, and certain jobs naturally fit in a masculine way and others in a feminine way. I'm a girly-girl, but I hated being labeled as "just a girl." My mother taught me to be a lady, but what exactly is the definition of one?
I get more kicks out of sporting cute shoes and accessories than shooting a gun or seeing something blow up. That's just who I am. Do all females think that? Uhhh....we all know the answer to THAT one! Does that mean that females that aren't into ribbons and lace aren't ladies as well?
I'm a hypocrite because I fell victim to this mentality of set masculine and feminine roles within the police force. It's natural to hear female voices on dispatch and see males round up the bad guys. After seeing a few unfit officers who also happened to be female fall short in their role, I labeled ALL female officers as unfit for police work.
Until I watched TLC's Police Women of Broward County.
Kimber mentioned how much she liked the show (she's always rooted for females as LEOs) so I thought I'd watch a bit to see what she was so excited about. I was made the hypocrite as I watched multiple females in multiple LEO roles handle their jobs in as professional manner as any male, sometimes besting all those around them.
I'm embarrassed that it took a TV show to let me know I'm wrong. There are still mediocre officers, just like every career, but they are most definitely not all females. There are amazing officers, both male AND female, that are keeping us safe and protected. I wonder what else I've been wrong about now?