Sunday, November 29, 2009

I'm not an over worrier of a wife but...

THIS
is what terrifies me.

I'm not scared of Big Daddy getting hurt in the line of duty. I know he is safe and I know he is careful and I know that he will do his best and past that I just let go and let God.

But this, the random (at least right now that is what it seems like), insane hatred of police and the desire to hurt and kill them... it scares me to death.

And all I can do it hurt for those who have lost their LEO.

Tuesday, November 24, 2009

A little bit late

Big Daddy was due home at 5pm.

It is 10:33pm

I'm not upset, really. I'm actually happy because at 5:03pm he called me and said, "Honey I am sorry I'm not calling sooner, but I was tied up until now with something and I'm going to be late."

That sentence warms my heart.

I get that he has to work late and I get that it happens in a moment and he has no control over it. I love that he is nice enough to acknowledge that when he calls me. Then I can go into super wife/mama mode and continue on with my night. That makes a world of difference to me.

Thanks BD, for letting me know and being sweet about it too!

Hope I see you before midnight. Dinner will be here when you get home and if it is too late breakfast will be instead.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

He works hard for the money...

So you'd better treat him right.

Money.

Man, I hate money.

I remember when BD first became a cop. We celebrated because, "We would never worry about paying the bills again!"

Boy, we were not smart. We got the first paycheck and knew we were in trouble.

Since then we've done a lot of different things to make ends meet. Overtime, teaching karate (BD), overtime, teaching piano (me), over time, starting a business (me and I'm selling it now, lol), over time, working part time gigs here and there and... overtime!

For us, we feel like it is best if I'm home while the kiddos are tiny, and while I've discussed getting a full time job before, BD just won't hear of it right now. I do a lot of penny pinching, couponing and other creative ways to save money so we are making it.

But, I'm curious... how do you make ends meet? Do you (could you) do it on one income?

What jobs work with the leo life?

BD's karate school is doing pretty decent and I am 1 student off of my target (this is my first year back to teaching piano and voice after years of running a small business, so my goals were modest) and we are doing okay that way, but in my fantasy world we earn enough to pay off the car and house fast and start creating a healthy bank account.
It'll happen one day... but for now, as long as we have a home and are together, I can deal with being po.

Thursday, November 12, 2009

Dealing with Stupidity: Police vs. Teachers

A while back FH sent this e-mail to me, but I have no idea how to check its validity that these were real comments really sent to the the below parties:

WHO is Funnier:

TEACHERS or COPS?



Teachers: these are actual comments made on student report cards by teachers in the New York City public school system. All teachers were reprimanded but, some of these are really funny!



1. Since my last report, your child has reached rock bottom and has started to dig.



2. I would not allow this student to breed.


3. Your child has delusions of adequacy.


4. Your son is depriving a village somewhere of an idiot.


5. Your son sets low personal standards and then consistently fails to achieve them.


6. The student has a 'full six-pack' but lacks the plastic thingie to hold it all together.


7. This child has been working with glue too much.


8. When your daughter's IQ reaches 50, she should sell.


9. The gates are down, the lights are flashing, but the train isn't coming.


10. If this student were any more stupid, he'd have to be watered twice a week.


11. it’s impossible to believe the sperm that created this child beat out 1,000,000 others


12. The wheel is turning but the hamster is definitely dead.

Note: It's Natalie here. I can personally relate to the teachers that made these comments, and can probably deduce that the comments were said/written/e-mailed after excrutiatingly long inservices, grading 150+ papers, most of which mediocre at best, etc...

While I was teaching I never vocally said anything like this, but it doesn't mean that I didn't THINK it! For the record, I firmly believe that a teacher has an important responsibility to provide an edifying environment for students to learn in, and even with that attitude, some students really test their limits.

Now, what FH can relate to:


Cops: These 16 Police Comments were taken off actual police car videos around the country.

Thank goodness, in spite of the perils of the job, they still have a sense of humour!



16. 'You know, stop lights don't come any redder than the one you just went through.’



15. 'Relax, the handcuffs are tight because they're new. They'll stretch after you wear them a while.'





14. 'If you take your hands off the car, I'll make your birth certificate a worthless document.'


13. 'If you run, you'll only go to jail tired.'


12. 'Can you run faster than 1200 feet per second?

Because that's the speed of the bullet that'll be chasing you.'


11. 'You don't know how fast you were going? I guess that means I can write anything I want to on the ticket, huh?'


10. 'Yes, sir, you can talk to the shift supervisor, but I don't think it will help.

Oh, did I mention that I'm the shift supervisor?'


9. 'Warning! You want a warning? O.K, I'm warning you not to do that again or I'll give you another ticket.'


8. 'The answer to this last question will determine whether you are drunk or not... Was Mickey Mouse a cat or a dog?'


7. 'Fair? You want me to be fair? Listen, fair is a place where you go to ride on rides, eat cotton candy and corn dogs and step in monkey shit.'


6. 'Yeah, we have a quota. Two more tickets and my wife gets a toaster oven.'


5. 'In God we trust, all others we run through NCIC.'


4. 'How big were those 'two beers' you say you had?'


3. 'No sir, we don't have quotas anymore. We used to, but now we're allowed to write as many tickets as we can.'


2. 'I'm glad to hear that the Chief (of Police) is a personal friend of yours.

So you know someone who can post your bail'.

AND THE WINNER IS.....

1.'You didn't think we give pretty women tickets? You're right, we don't. Sign here.'

Sunday, November 1, 2009

Social Life for LEO fams

So, I have thoughts (weird, right?).

 We're coming up on 6 years here and I've learned a lot since we started.

This is a smattering of the social lessons we've learned (mostly the hard way) since Big Daddy started.

Some lessons I wanted to share and I hope you'll share with me (or tell me if I'm a freak). I think these could go for any marriage, but I've learned them in the police life.

  1. If your spouse isn't your best pal and top confidant you are in trouble.
  2. Lots of people want to be friendly to the cop and his fam. Doesn't mean they actually are friendlies.  Be nice, but be aware of that fact.
  3. One of the best questions to use when a lesser known "friend" calls for the LEO goes like this: Is this a personal matter or something pertaining to the police dept? If they stutter, assume the latter.Don't be afraid to take and answer the question (since you or anyone with a shred of common sense would know that answer) or give out the cop shop number (the one in the phone book!).
  4. Caller ID is your friend. So are windows where you can see who is knocking but they can't see you.
  5. Fences are your friend.
  6. If your kids learn to NOT mention what your LEO does to every person that they meet. it might benefit them over the years.
  7. Police work and local politics are like oil and vinegar. Mixing those two realms can be interesting but will leave a bitter taste in your mouth.
  8. Civilian friends are good, but choose wisely. And don't be afraid to unchoose.
  9. Be his cover. I can't count the times I've seen "the face" when someone is going to a conversational place he doesn't want to, or can't go to (police wise) and I've done something to distract them and move them off topic. 
  10. If your LEO makes a friend, try really hard to make the friend too. And ask him to do the same. Just, I repeat, CHOOSE WISELY.
  11. Going to a location outside your LEO's jurisdiction (but still close to home) tends to make for the best events: Little chance of "work" interfering, but not to far to distract your LEO either.
  12. Communication is key. If you or your LEO has a problem with a person, place or activity,  talk to each other, work it out and make a united front one way or the other. 
  13. Let me emphasize this: UNITED FRONT. At the end of the day know where your loyalties must be.
  14. Be okay with doing all the social stuff without your LEO and don't waste the time guilt tripping. Especially when he is new on the job and asking for a lot of time off actually could hurt his career. From where I stand, the reward will be worth it.
  15. Let him sleep.
  16. He needs to let you sleep too on occasion and know that it will even out one day (another time proven truth for me).
  17. Yes, those last two relate to social life. No sleepy makes cranky humans and cranky humans suck at a get together.
  18. Last minute outings either rock or go down in flames.
  19. Let him take the gun if he wants to. And defend the crap outta him if anyone gives him guff. 
  20. YOU are his buffer in the civilian world. Protect him. Play the bouncer. Play the heavy. Keep him home if he needs it, take him out if he needs it. Prove to him that you will look out for his best interests and he'll appreciate the backup.
Okay, that is what I have thought of so far.
Give me what you've got!